How to Manage a Relationship? What Does It Mean to Be Related?
Is it possible to lead a life without a relationship? Can we live an isolated life? No! Because relationship is the essence of life. For that, it is important to understand what a relationship is.
Let’s consider a family at home, you have a husband or a father or a mother and children around. When you’re relating to your wife or your husband, you’re are relating to the role called wife or husband. Basically, we’re related to two human beings. If we are related, then we will not be carrying memories of pain and hurt them. Let’s take an instance that once in a morning, If the husband is angry with his wife or vice versa, for some action that does not suit or appeal to them and they have a spat at each other and then each one goes around doing their work. When in the evening they come back they do not see each other with a fresh eye. They carry the memory of the fight they had in the morning, and they carry the image of the person of what action he has done, such kind of memories are stored in our mind and we see each other with that image in mind. In such cases how do children look at you? In the beginning few years, children are too innocent to form images, as adults, we corrupt their innocence, and once their innocence is withering away, they start forming images. They start to keep a mind-set about his mother or his father or anyone related to him. This is nothing but images formed relationship. We do not relate to the original self; we are relating to the image.
How to manage a relationship?
Managing anger, deep listening, etc. all this is possible because of self-awareness, similarly, a relationship is possible if there is self-awareness. When you’re aware of what you are and how you are and when you accept yourself like that, you are not worried about pleasing others, you are not in competition with others, you are not in comparison with others, then true relationship can be formed. Because once you are not in that lead, you will stop comparing people at home or people outside, you will even stop them from competing. And when this happens, the true self, the true love, true affection comes out, with all these essences a relationship is formed. This is an everlasting relationship where, the heart speaks to the heart, when you respond to the heart and you don’t see images. You see the person with a fresh eye without storing any memories.
It may sound difficult, but when you start practicing on it, it becomes easy. Explore Relationships.