How to Manage Anger Effectively? How Did I Overcome It?
What is anger?
Anger is an emotion which has got both positive and negative connotation. The world says anger is not required and it is not positive in nature. But every human being on this planet gets angry and they all express anger in different ways, still people believe that anger is a negative emotion. Sure it is a negative emotion for most of us, according to the way we express it but there are times when the emotion of anger in us brings about a jewel or a transformation from within. Many times throughout life, you think about things that you have to do, which you want to do and you even feel like doing it but for some reason, you are not able to do. This makes you get angry.
Taking a simple example: You are very hungry physically, your stomach is rumbling, this makes you get angry. You start throwing tantrums, you shout at somebody or you do some action of anger but you don’t realize that the anger is because of hunger. But once you eat something, your anger subsides. You are not aware of it, neither your conscious mind is aware of it.
How to manage Anger?
Every anger that we have in ourselves is triggered by some force from within or from outside. So, to be aware of that, there is a power within us which is called Mindfulness. As written above, when you are angry, you shout at somebody, be it your colleague, family, friends, etc. which spoils a relationship. Anger begins and ends with us. If we react to what somebody else is saying, then it is the weakness within us that we are reacting. When we realize on time that the anger is surmounting within us, we can easily control it and deal with it within ourselves. You should just sit in a corner, reflect why are you angry, think about what is making you angry. Suppressing the anger will lead to keeping the problems within ourselves and will not spoil any relationship. An anger let go at the right time, will bring in good mental and physical health. Controlling your anger is a very easy task, sip in a glass of water, close your eyes and love the feeling of anger to come around you, it subsides on itself.
How did I overcome it?
There was a time, where I was expressively loud about my anger, vented my anger on people, spoiled my relationships with many of them. People don’t remember what good as a leader you’ve done but they remember the anger that you’ve shown a long time ago. I performed my anger management in the same way, sat back, relaxed and just allowed my anger to flow. You can do wonders if you just follow these steps
A leader is someone who is aware that he gets angry and is able to work on the anger, has got a skill of anger management. Mastering the art of anger management takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will get. And the payoff is huge. Learning to control your anger and express it appropriately will help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a healthier, more satisfying life